I have been a “mental-health” professional for more than thirty years. Before I became licensed in the early 80s as a Certified Child Psychotherapist and a Calif. Medical Board-approved Research Psychoanalyst, I taught Humanities at UCLA, language and literature at colleges and private schools, and have continued a life-long interest in, and understanding of, the human mind as quintessentially imaginative, imaginal, and image based. Whether I am teaching kids how to read a page of creative literature, or leading an adult client or a couple through the maze of their life struggles, my primary task is to help them understand that there is a sacred space between–between the loving person and the adored object, the sacred space between two loving individuals, or between a healing therapist and the suffering individual who has lost his or her way on the path of life.
I see that life path as eminently creative. The task we human beings have in our lives is to discover our own way on this path, and for that we need to discover our Guardian Angel, or our Daimon as the Greeks called it—our “acorn” within us, that is destined to become an oak tree, not a maple or willow—just as we humans have a “destiny” that lies within us and longs to develop into what God, or Nature, destined for us. This task, I have discovered in my seventy-plus years of life, is not an easy one in a culture that is consumer-oriented and corporation-dominated and clearly does not assist us in this enterprise. I consider it my duty and mission to aid my clients in finding their own “divine” or “sacred” space, that special place within each of us where our “genius” resides—with couples it is that sacred liminal space between the I and the Thou, which Martin Buber wrote about in his brilliant little book (Das Ich und Du).
What I love about doing therapy and coaching of couples is that I become the privileged witness to a precious transformation—from conflict to connection, from conditioned fears that love is not for them, and they will never find true love, from longing for intimacy that has failed them up until now—to an awakening of their deepest nature as loving beings, to an awareness that they can connect with each other, communicate in a whole new way, using empathy, respect, and authenticity, and that they can commune with each other by acknowledging that they are transforming each other, themselves, and their relationship because they are in genuine relationship.